SKELETONS

I am moved to write this piece following my recent outings on Facebook and the holier than thou attitude portrayed by many social media commentators. Life is full of ups and downs, and believe you me, no one can boast to have lived a spotless life. The fact that you thrived to better your life, does not mean you haven't for once made terrible mistakes you wish you never had and was locked somewhere inaccessible to others. Yes, you can call them skeletons! We all have them. And sometimes they scare us bad, we live in fear thinking someone might open our closets and discover our skeletons; our filth! Here on social media, plenty people act as though they don't have skeletons in their closet. Some would claim theirs are not as many as others. But does it really change the fact that they have skeletons? No! We must understand that when criticizing others, it should be done with an objective mind meant to correct, improve and better the life of the person being criticized or to prevent other potential culprits from toeing the same path. We should not do it with an intent to ridicule, make worse the life of the person, or even cause others to judge the person and pronounce them BAD people. We should also at all times be conscious that we also have a closet full of skeletons or having few of them. This is to enable us talk or act with caution concerning others. Many of us today are judge and jury, we are quick to condemn and hardly see the positives of any situation. How then can we have a positive or progressive life when we don't utilize the positive side we get? The government is criticized daily because of bad policies, and because we feel the pangs of hardship. But this doesn't mean we should turn a blind eye to some positive things done by the government! (Funny, some people who criticize have had spells as terrible administrators, yet they forget these skeletons). Its even worse when it comes to private life, at least government officials are subjected to more hasty and rash criticism because its public life (that's why people talk without thinking of their own skeletons). But in private life, we must not judge as though we are spotless; no one is perfect, this is a common line used by many. Funnily some people will talk to you as if they are the standard for perfection. Please before one will misconstrue me to be an advocate of passiveness when a wrong is committed let me stress that I am more concerned with the tone and approach of our reproaches and criticisms. The way you scold or rebuke someone in public should carry a tone that will 'make better' not 'make worse' the person's case. Condemnation of the person, instead of the person's action, is detrimental to the person's penance and subsequent rehabilitation of behavior. This is what's mostly obtained amongst people today in different media. I can't pretend not to have things in my life I don't wish even my would be wife or children to know about; no one can do that if he is truly human. This is just there to remind us of our fallibility as human beings and to play God, Judge or Jury when we are actually culprits in some sense doesn't hold water at all. Criticize with an objective mind not a biased one. Thanks and God bless.